Grandparents – Parental Child Abduction

CARI – Child Abduction Recovery International likes nothing better than returning children illegally abducted around the world, but we also like to bring up issues without the sugar coating, and tell the truth about topics those others including governments simply ignore and or avoid.

Like it or hate it, the hard cold facts are in nearly all our cases we deal with of International Child Abduction, (and we’re sure those we don’t) grandparent(s) are ALWAYS involved directly or in directly in the illegal abduction of children from the other parent.

In almost all cases grandparents are involved in one way or another, there is no disputing that fact. So that leads to the question of…. are grandparents Villains or Victims in International Parental Child Abduction cases?

In many cases it’s the grandparents who coach or brainwash the parent, into illegally abducting their child(ren), for their own selfish motives.

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The problem is, they continue to get away with their involvement, untouched by the courts and authorities. Recently though, UK based grandparents were sentenced to 14 months and 12 months for lying to Police, UK courts and being physically involvement in their daughter’s illegal abduction of her two children from the UK to Costa Rica. Hats off to the UK police and judge involved.

Also recently a high profile abduction case involving an American father having his child abducted to Brazil by the mother who was assisted by her parents. This particular case now seems more about money than the child involved as the father is suing the millionaire grandparents for $740,000 (originally was $1.4 million), while the grandparents are now suing the father.

These recent arrests of grandparents in Parental Abduction cases we believe is long overdue and sends out a strong message to other grandparents thinking of getting involved in an abduction. The trouble is most other judicial systems around the world won’t follow suite and never will.

In one case CARI was involved in, the abducting parent decided to hand their child to the grandparents who went on the run around Europe for months on end, after The Hague Convention court ruled against this parent. This selfish mother thinking she was smart then went about her daily routines as if nothing was going on, living like a socialite enjoying her romantic new lover, while the young child was being dashed through different countries in Europe trying to avoid the authorities, a fugitive without either parent. Even Interpol’s red, blue, pink, yellow, green, orange, white, purple, brown, (whatever color there is, all are useless. Left behind parents, please don’t think you will get help from Interpol. Read our blog here about Interpol and IPCA these to grandparents freely ran and were allowed to, due to the authorities, normal ‘who cares’ approach and attitudes.

No stable daily routine, no safety, no school, no medical, no friends, just two elderly grandparents who could hardly look after themselves. Physically and mentally abused, this child like so many more around the world who did not choose to be in these horrible situations, need to be helped. Why why why put these innocent children through a life of hell, when you know perfectly well it’s only a matter of time before you can’t run any longer….or CARI catches up with you. And where is this child now you might ask……back with the left behind parent living a wonderful, safe and secure life.

What did the authorities do to these two selfish, irresponsible grandparents and abductor….nothing, nothing at all. Grandparents who assist in abductions usually take care of the abducted children in the day to day upbringing of the children, not the abductor. This is very common in many cultures within the Middle East, South America and Asia. Remember, the number one way children are abducted without doubt, is by using grandparents. Many abducting parents will tell the other parent that a grandparent is sick etc in the foreign country. Do not be fooled! It’s an excuse to get the children overseas then they are retained in the foreign country.

ABDUCTION BY RETENTION is the number one abduction method.

On the other hand, grandparents also suffer greatly as does all the extended family when a child has been illegally abducted by a parent. CARI Child Abduction Recovery International has worked with some amazing, loving and caring grandparents around the world. They try and stay strong to keep the left behind family together emotionally, but the truth is grandparents are also victims of International Parental Child Abduction. Unfortunately, grandparents are very much forgotten in International Parental Child Abduction.

Grandparents should be setting an example for their children and grandchildren.

So the answer to our question, are Grandparents Villains or Victims in IPCA cases ….. they are both.


Governments need to pull their fingers out, and start to recognize what the hell is going on out there to these children. International Abduction or Kidnappings as some call it, is rising each year. Get laws put in place to punish grandparents and family members for their involvement in abductions. Parental Child Abduction must be made a CRIME in all countries.

Fact…..Child Abduction is child abuse, regardless of what you critics say, and if grandparents stayed out of International Child Abduction, there would be so much less children being abducted around the world. Instead of grandparents telling parents to take the children and run home, “we (grandparents) will take care of the kids for you”, why don’t you tell them to act like a good parent and try work it out for the children’s sake, not because you’re (grandparents) lonely and want the grandchildren to yourselves……start acting like grandparents should be acting and not like a Narcissistic.

(Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder in which a person is excessively preoccupied with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity, mentally unable to see the destructive damage they are causing to themselves and others. It is a cluster B personality disorder). ‘The Narcissistic Family ‘– Everybody acts like they know nothing.

Every child deserves to have a loving relationship with both Mum and Dad and both sets of grandparents and ‘no one’ should stop this happening.


If you have any questions or concerns regarding International Parental Child Abduction feel free to contact CARI Child Abduction Recovery International 24/7. We are always available at or by calling our CEO Adam Whittington directly +46 707385598

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